THE AE JOURNAL

"The quest to refrain from being the imposter pair of Manolo Blahniks"




Your one year anniversary is steadily approaching with your significant other. For most couples this is a moment to celebrate and recount on the year's past events and truly take the time to embrace each other. It's a Saturday afternoon and you're strolling down the aisle of Neiman Marcus with your beau. You coyly express your fascination for the new spring collection of Manolo Blahniks. As you exit the store you notice that your beau is"acting" aloof but is really concerned on how to celebrate your one year anniversary.



When the day finally arrives your love tells you to meet him at this opulent restaurant. You arrive there dressed in the perfect ensemble. You decided to wear "the" dress that hides your imperfections and only highlights your best assets. Well, as you make your way through the restaurant your eyes lock with a dashing young gentleman across the room. You finally blush after realizing it is "your" sweetheart. When he approaches you, your eyes gravitate to the white shoe box he clutches and your mind completely shuts down.



"Manolo Blahniks! He could not have" – you think to yourself.



It seems like a fairytale romance in those 3.5 seconds until he allows you to clutch the box of love and slip your fingers inside. Your genuine smile fades into a forced smile as you realize the false leather sole and the lack of the two Manolo Blahniks labels inscribed.



In those 3.5 seconds you thought you knew your shoe, you find yourself dismayed to discover it was a fraud.



Relationships are no different.



In romantic relationships women who don't have a strong sense of personal identity find themselves in very perplexing situations. For example, a couple who begins dating may kick it off initially during the "getting to know you stage". The man may find himself impressed by the woman who he is dating at first. If that woman does not have a strong sense of identity she may find herself doing the following:

• Disregarding her own personal needs in the relationship
  
• Allowing herself to be used
  
• Becoming the knock off Manolo Blahniks!

All men and women wish to understand the person who they choose to involve themselves with. Thus, it's frustrating to encounter that a potential mate has put up a facade and is neither the man or the woman who they've first met. This is one of the main reasons…



Why he could have left you like an imposter pair of Manolo Blahniks. You lost your identity.



The best way to avoid being a Manolo imposter is to spend time knowing who you're as an individual. You must build a relationship with yourself before you can expect your relationships with others to prosper.



Leave the imposter Manolos on the shelves and wear the real deal, YOURSELF!

Carrie Bradshaw of the hit TV show, Sex and the City, said it best-" You shouldn't have to sacrifice who you are just because someone else has a problem with it". She was also known for her Manolo Blahniks obsession.

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